friendship
C.S Lewis got it right: friendship is born when one person says to another: "What! You too? I thought I was the only one!"
The First Date
How They Treat the Waiter Tells You Everything THE TEST YOU DIDN'T KNOW YOU WERE GIVING đ˝ď¸ You are sitting across from someone who has been charming and attentive and funny for the past forty-five minutes, making eye contact, asking thoughtful questions, laughing at your jokes, and generally performing the specific version of themselves that they have determined is most likely to produce a second date, and everything about the interaction suggests that this person is kind and considerate and worth your time, and then the waiter arrives and something shifts, not dramatically enough to constitute obvious rudeness but subtly enough that you almost miss it, a slight change in tone from warm to transactional, a failure to make eye contact with someone who is performing a service, an impatience with a question about the specials that would not have been displayed if the question had come from you rather than from someone in an apron, and this shift which lasts approximately thirty seconds before the date persona is reassumed contains more useful information about your potential partner's character than the entire preceding forty-five minutes of performed charm because the way someone treats a person who can do nothing for them reveals who they actually are rather than who they are pretending to be đ
By The Curious Writer3 days ago in Humans
The Ex
The Psychology Behind Digital Orbiting and Why It Keeps You Stuck THE GHOST WHO HAUNTS YOUR FEED đą You blocked them, unblocked them, muted them, unmuted them, and told yourself a hundred times that you would stop checking whether they viewed your Instagram stories, but every time you post something you find yourself scrolling through the viewer list with the specific anxiety of someone checking a pregnancy test, simultaneously hoping for and dreading the result, and when their name appears in the list which it almost always does because they watch everything you post with the faithful consistency of someone who is monitoring your life without participating in it, you feel a surge of validation so brief it barely registers before being replaced by the confusion and frustration of trying to understand what it means when someone who chose to leave your life continues watching you live it from the digital equivalent of a parked car across the street, close enough to observe but too far away to be reached, present enough to notice but absent enough to deny đ¤
By The Curious Writer3 days ago in Humans
Letting Go Of Attachment Without Numbing Your Feelings
Releasing attachment can be misconstrued to mean closing down or simply moving on too fast. The truth of the matter is that healthy emotion release does not involve freezing emotion but rather learning to experience it in its entirety without being dominated by it. It can be attached to an individual, a relationship, a memory, or even a personality. Once it gets painful most individuals attempt to avoid it by ignoring feelings. However, emotional suppression is not a cure of attachment, but it postpones and intensifies it.
By Mark Hipster3 days ago in Humans
What To Do When You Love Someone Who Canât Love Back
It is one of the most emotionally complicated and painful situations a person can experience when he or she loves a person who will not love him or her back. It establishes a silent yet strong struggle between hope and reality. One side has deep emotional attachment and the other emotional absence or unavailability. This disproportion may cause longing, confusion, self-doubt and even emotional exhaustion.
By Mark Hipster3 days ago in Humans
The Twelve-Year-Old in My Covers
My boy is twelve this yearâa middle school freshman. Heâs already nearly as tall as my shoulder. Yet, despite being such a big kid, he still insists on crawling into my bed every single night, as steady and predictable as clockwork.
By Water&Well&Page3 days ago in Humans
How Do You Gain Respect Without Coming Across as Overbearing?
You thought you earned the respect of your peers. You thought everyone liked and admired youâŚYet, you are dead wrong. Why? You found out through a trusted friend that people are talking behind your back. You no longer have the respect you so coveted. In fact, the comments are demeaning.
By Marie Dubuque4 days ago in Humans
Scorpio Woman & Aries Man Compatibility Score. AI-Generated.
The pairing between a Scorpio woman and an Aries man is anything but dull. This relationship is intense, magnetic, and often filled with emotional highs and passionate exchanges. While their differences can create friction, they also form the foundation of a deeply transformative bond. When handled with maturity, this duo can build a powerful and lasting connection.
By Inspire and Fun5 days ago in Humans
When Do You Allow Someone to See the Real You?
Youâre probably thinking, âI am always my true self with everyone.â Are you really? I mean, we all put up a facade when we meet someone. Say you are feeling lousy and you run into an acquaintance who asks how you are doing. Most of us automatically say that weâre fine, even when weâre not.
By Marie Dubuque5 days ago in Humans
